tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post4502988175395095873..comments2023-10-04T09:08:59.554-07:00Comments on Through Iris Eyes: I Should Know BetterIrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13568684757825104657noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post-84750151487660161702007-10-23T13:41:00.000-07:002007-10-23T13:41:00.000-07:00Yeah, I do this too. Or, more often, I spin out of...Yeah, I do this too. Or, more often, I spin out of control and refuse to allow W (or anyone else for that matter) to help. Or I bury all of the pesky needs I've got and try to pretend that everything is okay.<BR/><BR/>What can I say? I'm human and complex.<BR/><BR/>But, yeah, I totally get this.Jigsaw Analogyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051811184421446296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post-28055122326132730972007-10-13T21:37:00.000-07:002007-10-13T21:37:00.000-07:00Hmm... I've thought about it now :). I'm sure this...Hmm... I've thought about it now :). I'm sure this is no surprise, but I think you ought to let M help you ;).<BR/><BR/>The complex answer is that we are taught from an early age that we *are* perfectly capable of being self-sufficient, making good decisions, and being 'grown-up'. Well, you know what? Being 'grown-up', while fun on some levels, requires a damnably annoying amount of responsibility, patience, and determination.<BR/><BR/>Or... "discipline" is not something you need to create for yourself. You don't have to experience it alone and on your own. And...<BR/><BR/>“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” -- Jim Rohn <BR/><BR/>Be good to yourself. :) And say hi to your mom from me!Serenity Evertonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12269108286146880037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post-75606434638832950092007-10-09T18:56:00.000-07:002007-10-09T18:56:00.000-07:00I think he is right :-) I am the same way though. ...I think he is right :-) I am the same way though. I just can't ask for help. Try to do it all and get all cranky and screamy. Hoped you're feeling better though now!<BR/><BR/>CaryeCaryagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18283871229312401932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post-67469747780283613392007-10-08T09:26:00.000-07:002007-10-08T09:26:00.000-07:00Rose, I understand completely! It's that push-pul...Rose, I understand completely! It's that push-pull between wanting to lean on someone with all the trust and vulnerability that a discipline relationship implies, and still stubbornly wanting to do it by myself in case the vulnerability is too much of a burden.<BR/><BR/>So I guess what you're saying is, "Welcome to the club?" :-DIrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13568684757825104657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8825765774858693240.post-16684373488066231982007-10-08T07:06:00.000-07:002007-10-08T07:06:00.000-07:00I can completely relate to this, Iris! Most of my...I can completely relate to this, Iris! Most of my spankings are for this exact kind of behavior. I've always felt the need to "prove" (to myself or to others, I'm not sure) that I am independent and can do everything by myself. Unfortunately, I've got a record of taking it to the extreme and either running myself into the ground, or ending up injured. In any case, lately my poor behind generally ends up injured... It's not an easy lesson to learn.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14729019275679534785noreply@blogger.com